Ditching the clingy BF!

Subtle ways to dismiss the overbearing, clingy partner.

You know it's over when you feel suffocated. That's what clingy guys do. They latch on feed off your energy and well, just suffocate you. This clingy-ness, can often leave you upset, irritated, sad or even physically drained. His constant phone calls and presence begin to take their toll on you and though you try and discuss it, you realise he isn't even bothered to listen, so him changing is a very distant thought.

What's worse is that he makes every effort you make to leave, wearing down your already weary mind. You know he's doing this but you can help but feel responsible. Here's where you should stay strongest. Deep down you know what you have to do, so just do it. Rip it out like a band aid.

When you're uneasy you must ask yourself these questions:
1) Is this cold feet or is he really a bad choice?
2) why do I feel suffocated?
3) Is he being manipulative? (Confirm with a girlfriend.
4) has this been happening for a while?
5) Does your gut say run and don't look back?

Once you have given it sufficient thought and discussed it with YOUR trusted friend, it's time to get the sneakers out and run. Here's how:

If your saying for less than a month you don't need a very strong reason to leave. He needs no explanation, just say it isn't working out and Bye. If he tries calling, you can pick ONCE say Bye it's not working out. Don't propose to still be friends  EVER.

If it's over two months a polite lunch in a crowded place should be fine. Avoid dinners, if he's clingy he'll insist on dropping you home. Do not do this at your apartment or his, things could get ugly, especially if he has a temper.

Write down what you'd like to say. When you rely on memory it puts the emotions out of the way. If you can't write stuff down say this.

"His name , I'm really sorry but it isn't working out. We're not the right fit. It's time we admit it."

At this point he'll give you a list of reasons it's great all of which suit him and not you. Remember that. And Reply, "it's just not working out for me" or "I can't do this anymore". And stick to this line u til the end, you don't owe any explanations if you think you'll be manipulated.

If you think he does deserve an explanation let him know but be prepared for a fight. Stick to your script don't be easily persuaded.

Stay strong . You will feel a load off your chest once you're done. Relief is such a victorious feeling.

Good luck.