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Love is blind, thank God I'm not

When blind dates go bad, And I mean very bad.

I'm beginning to think that blind dates are becoming a ritual for single women who are just a little tired of all the weirdos we've already met. You are on the look out, but there isn't anyone interesting in sight. So you let go of you inhibitions and say wtf may be I am a bit too uptight and may be destiny wants it this way. So when your friend suggests you meet this guys she knows who's a really good catch and has this in common with you, you say with some hesitance, "well, okay".

Now here's the part of live to change and make it sound like it's not any less than a movie worthy story. But no, I'm sticking to what really happens. You see a picture, wonder why he has sunglasses on in the Monsoon, think okay  seems successful and honest, at least worth a meet. So you agree, set a date and time, dress up with the perfect mix of casual and interesting yet not desperate, and head only half an hour late to the café.

You reach , only to recieve a call from that Mr X confirming where to meet. You glance at him thinking dam his Photoshop skills must be good, he's really ugly in real life. With the first few minutes of polite smiles and exchanging courtesies, your brain lists all the reasons, in a cold I knew it fashion, you shouldn't be doing this. These are mine:

1) you're better than this
2) OMG really! That shirt😒
3) she didn't tell me he stammers
4) Wow that's some deep conversation. This guy is super serious.
5) okay why hasn't my BFF called yet
6) Hmmm this guys out on a limb. I should at least be nice and not walk away. Dam I hate how polite I am.
7) Can't believe Batman is his topic of conversion!
8) That's it no main course I'm outta here.

You fake an excuse and leave in the politest way possible hoping that another no only brings you closer to yes, the ONE!

It doesn't take too long to judge someone, particularly to know if you're gonna be comfortable with someone or not. So go with your gut. If it's only apprehension, it's worth waiting it out. But otherwise, when you gotta go you gotta go.

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